Do You Feel Intimidated By People?
Have you ever gotten intimidated by other people? Such as feeling nervous to talk to the boy you find attractive, semi-paralyzed when you meet the company's CEO, or bumping into a celebrity you like so much and don't know what to say.
I am sure we all do have these experiences, but why?
Because we think they are special, better, and smarter.
We may feel "lesser than," not enough, or even inferior around them.
The truth is, they are also human beings like us, which means they also shit and poop like us.
I remember one of the Buddhist teachings to help us connect to reality and be free from attachment or addiction to people or sex is to recognize the nature of ourselves. We are all bags carrying filths.
I know it may be a little much, but isn't it true? It could be an excellent antidote if you are in such an obsession.
We just need to open our eyes and see.
But in the end, in most cases, it is not even about other people but our insecurities.
We have been conditioned and trained to rely on other people to like us and approve of us to feel good about ourselves.
That is destined to be futile as people are fickle, and in fact, they don't care that much about us.
Security is we feel good regardless of how other people think and feel about us.
If we can train to care about other people's opinions, we can also train to care less.
For instance, you are now speaking in front of people. You may feel bad about yourself if they yawn and cross their arms.
But if you believe that what you share has value, you won't care as much.
You also have the wisdom to understand people have every reason to feel disinterested in your speech. Such as they are tired or bothered with other things in mind, or even if they disagree with what you said, it doesn't mean you are not good enough. We simply disagree on something.
The training to increase security and feel good from within is as follows:
When you feel nervous, which is usually accompanied by a pounding heart rate and muscle tension, you recognize that “It’s time for training.”
Take a deep breath and affirm, “I train myself to feel good regardless of what other people think about me.”
Decide to feel good from within by repeating the following:
“I feel good by living what I desire, not what others desire."
“I feel good about living true to myself.”
“I feel good by understanding that other people are human beings just like me.”
“I feel good about seeing others as allies and friends.”
“I feel safe, and all is well.”
4. Take another deep breath and move on.
While maximizing your conscious mind through the above cognitive training with awareness and practice, don't forget the powerful rewiring in your unconscious mind through hypnosis.
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